Why are we so jealous?

topic posted Sun, October 7, 2007 - 5:07 AM by  rêve
Hey guys!!!

And thanks for finally adding me to this tribe!!!

So, why? I hate it. I mean this is in relation to love or relationships

Let me know of your thoughts people.

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  • Re: Why are we so jealous?

    Sun, October 7, 2007 - 8:12 AM
    I don't think it's jealousy so much as we love being the Center of Attention. As Pisces people, we are often overlooked....and that is something we just have to learn to use to our advantage! :-)

    In my life, I've had to put a lot of work into loving myself and doing what I really NEED to do....without always bowing to the needs of others. After all, if one doesn't take care of oneself, one isn't going to be any good to others.

    When people aren't paying any attention to me, that is a good time to do things for myself. And if people really love me, they will eventually come back around to way or another.

    As Patti Smith puts it: "Paths that cross will cross again."
    • Re: Why are we so jealous?

      Sun, October 7, 2007 - 8:46 AM
      love your post, Maggie!
      Welcome to the tribe, Sarah
      • Re: Why are we so jealous?

        Sun, October 7, 2007 - 10:52 AM
        I know why I'm so jealous. Venus in Aries.
        • Re: Why are we so jealous?

          Sun, October 7, 2007 - 11:10 AM
          I get jealous often, BUT I was also told by an old boyfriend of several years who knows me better then anyone that I only get jealous when given a reason to be jealous.

          So what does that mean?

          It means I need a special strong person who knows how to make me secure, one who respects me and my feelings by not flirting with other women in front of me I find that disrespectful and leads to dangerous territory eventually.

          I'm not asking them to be dead, but for godsakes be respectful and realize I am right there.

          It sounds tough, but there are men out there who know this and get this and really if I feel he is "that into me" he wouldn't be doing that anyway! And you know what I am right because I have that right now with a really great guy! So they do exist people!
      • Re: Why are we so jealous?

        Mon, October 8, 2007 - 6:48 AM
        Thanks! Oh, I have a Moon in Aries, too! Quick to passion....but quick to laugh, also! (And quick to the most inappropriate times!) :-)
        (BTW, it's great to be here with all you fishy folk!)
  • Re: Why are we so jealous?

    Mon, October 8, 2007 - 12:18 PM
    I don't feel like I get jealous, really. I like my own space very much so therefore appreciate it when others take theirs. I can be a huge flirt myself and understand that can be hard to turn off, even when in a committed relationship. Flirting and playing is an awesome part of life and I would not deny that to any of my partners, or myself.
    • Re: Why are we so jealous?

      Mon, October 8, 2007 - 5:52 PM
      i feel exactly the same way as you. curious, melissa, did you always feel this way, or has this come with age, experience, maturity?
      • Age, Experience & Maturity

        Mon, October 8, 2007 - 10:33 PM
        I think it must have come with age, experience and maturity....well maybe just age and experience. ::wink::

        I do remember feeling what I thought to be jealousy when I was younger and dating, but in retrospect I think it was more likely self-doubt which I believe to be a different issue altogether.

        I am an amazing and beautiful person who loves to be appreciated, but not to the exclusion of all those other amazing and beautiful creatures out there. You know who are! Now, stop looking at this computer screen and go get your flirt on....
  • Re: Why are we so jealous?

    Mon, October 8, 2007 - 1:29 PM
    I think my Scorp moon causes my jealousy more than anything. I don't mind it so much anymore, sort of learned to accept it, and whoever I am with needs to accept the fact that I am jealous and possessive, but extremely loyal at the same time, and they need to deal with it and love it and understand it, and if they don't, well then, they are just not meant for me. I don't tolerate flirting or anything similar, if I am insanely loyal to them, they better be the same way to me, or they are not worth my time. I won't tolerate anyone who cares so little about me that they feel the need to flirt with other people, to me that is very shallow behavior.
    • Re: Why are we so jealous?

      Mon, October 8, 2007 - 1:51 PM
      Exactly Tiff! Thanks!

      Even though I have a Virgo moon I feel the same exact way!
      • Re: Why are we so jealous?

        Mon, October 8, 2007 - 3:02 PM
        (just some additional info)

        When I was younger I was jealous when my mom paid attention to her friends children. Duh! Her paying attention to her friends children was to be expected. I don't think that my being jealous has to do with being a Pisces as much as it does my personality type (Myers Brigg).
        Tough to admit, but yes, I do get jealous at times when other women pay attention to my date and my date starts preening. But then I remember that if I really loved or liked that person, I wouldn't want them to forego a little ego boosting, we all need it at times. It isn't easier said then done, and I'm able to do it when I remember that if I loved or liked that person and wanted them to be happy, and it really wasn't doing any harm to me, then so be it.
        I know one could argue that perhaps my date would like the attention from the other person so much it would jeopardize what we have, but I disagree. If a relationship ended using that scenario, then it wasn't meant to be and there are deeper issues that should've been contended with....and that if the relationship ended because of these reasons, then it isn't a true valid reason, just an excuse.

        Plugging along like the fish I is....
        Jolly Mah!
  • Re: Why are we so jealous?

    Tue, October 9, 2007 - 10:24 AM
    I gave up on the jealousy thing long ago. It only leads to heartache. I feel jealous tendencies from my Cancer rising (Cancer is SUPER jealous and possessive), but can mostly ignore them because I know I will just end up hurting myself. I'm with Melissae in thinking that everyone deserves a good flirt now and again. Personally I LOVE to flirt so I give my loved ones the same latitude.
    • Re: Why are we so jealous?

      Wed, October 10, 2007 - 12:37 AM
      flirting is/ was never a problem, I think it's healthy and light hearted..

      I meant jealousy of your partner's past lovers, their connection they had with eachother ( if you find out what type it was), their past loves etc etc

      Get it!?
      • Re: Why are we so jealous?

        Wed, October 10, 2007 - 6:08 AM
        Well, yeah now that you've specified...::wink::

        In regards to specific jealousy of my partners' past lovers and the connection they shared, again I don't experience jealousy there either. People are a part of our lives at different times to help us find and listen to our highest self and/or do the same for them. Synchronicity and all that. If I love someone, those past relationships/lovers helped mold that person into the awesomeness they are in this moment, no matter how the relationship evolved/ended/etc...I should be so lucky to find them and thank them, not send energetic poison daggers in their direction.
  • Re: Why are we so jealous?

    Mon, August 25, 2008 - 11:15 PM
    ooop, spoke to soon. BF and I went to visit his brother in another state. His brother was seeing someone, then they broke up. The girl showed up on the last night of an event we all attended. It was 11:30 pm, summer night, nice cool summer, campers all around. The brother had to go talk with someone real quick, that left me, BF, and her. BF asked her questions like where she was from, what she did, blah blah blah blah. I was bored. Then he said, Oh, I see you took your hair down. I leaned forward and saw that yes, she took her hair down and was doing the femme thing.
    sssssst...thats the sound of fish blood coming to a rapid boil, haha.
    I was thinking what the hell is she doing? Thanks to my mentor who is 78, I took some quick advice and got up and left the conversation. Hey, thats the way it goes. BF was surprised. I didnt care what it looked like. But it worked. Conversation came to a quick halt. I came back 4 minutes later after having asked a legitimate question from the main person about what time clean up was in the morning. When I came back, BF asked where I went. I told him, and said I was bored could we go get something to eat? He said sure, we got up and left. I smiled at her and said laterz.
    Ouch! Why are we so jealous?
    • Re: Why are we so jealous?

      Tue, August 26, 2008 - 6:46 AM
      Pisces can be ultra-aware of the invisible energy in the :-)

      Sounds like she's (the brother's ex-girlfriend) a good person to stay away from.

      She has "issues."
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    Re: Why are we so jealous?

    Tue, August 26, 2008 - 12:34 AM
    Interesting topic...

    When I was younger I would get highly jealous ( cancer moon) but I realized, as I got older, that it was insecurities with the one I was with and not the attention they would receive.

    If we didn't have a strong bond, I would be anxious that someone could come in between me and my lover and that caused the green eyed monster to rear its ugly head.

    But then I came to the conclusion that each person touches you in a different way, in ways that maybe I could never do or my lover could never with me. So allowing the other the freedom to flirt or connect with others ( with limits of course) and a strong bond kills that monster dead.

    Trust kills jealousy

  • Why are we so jealous?

    Tue, August 26, 2008 - 12:52 PM
    Totally! With respect to the invisible energy of the situation, I totally picked up on a little something. She’s from a different yet similar culture and background (long explanation, blah blah blah), but I definitely picked up on some *ting*.

    I trust BF; however, there were other undercurrents going on in the situation that went beyond trusting the BF. I don’t appreciate her pulling out the femme card, and I don’t know if men would know what I meant by that statement, because BF didn’t know what I was referring to and I wasn’t about to explain it to him. But women know women, and sometimes you’ve got to take the bull by the horns when it comes to one on one situations.

    Yes, BF will probably scope out other women when I’m not around. Or flirt. Hey, I can’t do anything about it. But when a tiger starts eyeing BF like potential prey in front of me, then its time to take action and leave the situation.

    My fellow Piscean women KNOW what I’m talking about. We know women! Its all good :)
  • Re: Why are we so jealous?

    Wed, August 27, 2008 - 6:40 AM
    I'm not the jealous kind. Sometimes, I wish I could get a-bit more jealous. My wife is a dancer, she's a lovely woman, for a jealous man this situation would be impossible.
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    Re: Why are we so jealous?

    Wed, August 27, 2008 - 6:56 AM
    For me it depends a lot on how well I know and how much I trust someone when in a relationship. Usually at first, I'm somewhat jealous when I'm not sure exactly where I stand in the relationship. Then when I'm secure, I'm hardly jealous at all. Like with my ex-bf, he was a pizza delivery driver and he told me that he went to a lady's house and she answered the door with a shirt and no pants or panties lol! So she was completely naked on the bottom half. And he told me about it that night and I just laughed about it. Sure I was shocked that someone would be so 'slutty' haha, but I trusted my bf enough to not be jealous. And then a couple nights later his coworkers told him that she called to order a pizza again and requested my bf to come back and deliver it to her lol! He wasn't working that night though.. but I just laughed about it again when he told me about it. He looked at me like wasn't I jealous at all? lol :) But it was because at that point in our relationship I completely trusted him and knew that he wasn't going to cheat on me.

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