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They will call back

topic posted Sat, September 15, 2007 - 2:12 PM by  Jolly Mah
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This is an observation. In dating this is what I've learned so far. That in a relationship, we phish enjoy melding (New thought: was Spock a Pisces? Mind meld?) with our partners. It's our nature. And it feels good.

The not so cool side is when we run into those signs that hit and run.

This is what I've learned.

Don't call.

Bite your hand. Wait it out. Leave the state. Destroy your phone. Do whatever you have to do to "not" text, call, or have any communication whatsoever. I've learned, that when you wait it out, they always call back. Be it one year to ten years, they always call back.

Thoughts?
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Jolly Mah
Los Angeles
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  • Your advice is for us Pisces not to call? Or other people not to call us? I assume its the former.

    I still practice this rule with the person i have been dating for five months now. I know he likes me, I'm secure, but still...it's just a wise policy...

    sometimes i get weak, but i'm comfortable enough with him now where i can be a bit vulnerable.

    the game i play is "i'm never calling him again!" i just tell myself that. there is no reason. but for some reason, if I make it absolute in my mind, i waste no energy waiting for him to call. and when he inevitably does, life is all lilies and roses again... :::sigh:::
  • My experience?
    Once they leave you, they only call back if they need money or some other favor, because they think you're an "easy touch".
    That or to cause trouble.

    Otherwise, they don't leave you. In that case, when they call it's to sweet-talk you into bringing home a pizza.
    [*note; beer is always helpful in a melding involving pizza.]

    My track record consists of "hit-&-run" types, so far. Or the types that like the Pizza and Beer Night, just not the relationship that I'd like to go along with it.
  • I understand your logic but HOW do you actually have the strength of mind not to call?????????

    It is almost impossible for me, i just obsess and obsess and just HAVE to eventuslly call.
  • Unsu...
     
    why play games, be yourself.
    • Unsu...
       
      Exactly the thought that was going through my head! You just said it first. I HATE game playing.
      • I think you have to play games sometimes.

        I can be really obsessive and full on so i have to conceal my real emotions so i dont seem like a freak....
        • Unsu...
           
          dont you want someone who will love you for your obsessive qualities? being obsessive i think is a good trait, and we should honor and embrace it. being obsessive means that you really care. that to me is a good thing. caring what other people think and not honoring your own strengths can cause blockages in your solar plexus chakra. love yourself for who you are.......you are a chosen pisces! anyone would be lucky to have one of us fishies........
          • meh...i think there is something to remaining your own self, not losing yourself in the "meld" with someone else.

            because if the only way you can function is if you are but a part of a whole...there's destined to be that feeling of incompleteness unless you find that person to complete you. i'd rather be a happy, functioning, independent human being, i think more people are attracted to that.

            it's great if you find a person who you can obsess over and they're into it, and perhaps reciprocate...i guess. i think my aquarius moon doesn't want to see me like that anymore. it's brought nothing but pain, and exacerbated weakness. now, as a fully functioning "self," I can examine and work on my weaknesses.

            just my way of looking at it...i don't see it as a "game"...i see it as part of the delicate dance of relationships. if my partner has stepped off the dance floor -- I'm going to keep dancing by myself, and love it.

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